Superwife - Camo belt - D

My wife of 8 years and mother of our three kids. She started TKD after the birth of Odie, our third child.

Princess - Camo Belt - D

Our seven-year-old daughter. She was originally supposed to be a spectator to Cowboy, but jumped in and has proven to have an incredible talent for the martial arts.

Cowboy - Camo Belt - D

Our six-year-old son. He is small for his age, so starting him in TKD is what got us into this mess. He is very close to our Chief Instructor, and his spirit is twice as big as he is.

Odie

Our youngest son, born in April of 2006. By the time he is old enough to start, we should all be Black Belts.

Tuesday, January 09, 2007

Intensity

It seems that the intensity gets jacked up higher every class. Not so much with the physical part, since SW and I are ahead of the game fitness-wise, but with the content.

We went to class on Saturday because we're getting ready for Mesa. Since we won't have CJ1 down in time, we all picked which form to do--in most cases SA3. The school is doing a "competition class" on Saturdays now, so we learn CJ1 in our normal class, and SA3 in the competition class.

In the past five weeks since joining Black Belt Club we have only sparred once. There's only one other guy in the class (Alan), so we usually get paired up for everything. When we sparred that one time we were restrcited to kicks to the body only, and I beat him easily 5-0. He's pretty competitive, and was pissed that I had beaten him. Since then, he's told me several times that he's been practicing, with the only thought being to beat me in class.

When we have adult classes, the kids usually hang out in the lobby--unsupervised. To counter this SW and I bring in our portable DVD player for our kids to watch, and that normally keeps them out of trouble. On Saturday, there were more kids than normal due to the upcoming tournament. Both instructors were teaching, and the school owner was in his office, behind closed doors, with a customer. We were working on Bong Mahng Ee, which I have a pretty good handle on, when I saw Princess making her way to the office to knock on the door. I bowed out to see what the problem was.

Apparently there was some kid that I had never seen before playing with the DVD and not letting anyone watch it. I went over and tapped the kid on the shoulder, telling him not to touch the player and to share. He didn't even look up at me.

"I can touch whatever I want," he muttered. I was stunned on so many levels. One, I was an adult. Two, I was in uniform and higher ranking than he. And three, it was my DVD player for my kids.

"Excuse me--that is my machine for my kids. Do not touch it and let them watch. If you want to watch, too, then look over their shoulders." He didn't move. "Now." He rolled his eyes and got up, going over to his father, which I was amazed to find out was a few feet away and not paying any attention to his own kid.

When I went back into class I was completely frazzled. The moves I had been doing a few minutes earlier with ease were gone, and I looked like I had never been there before. A few minutes later, the instructor told us to go get suited up. When I went back out into the lobby, the kid was at it again so I took the DVD player and closed it, placing it into my bag. Now I was even more pissed, since my own kids couldn't watch a movie I had brought specifically for them. On top of that, I was the last one back on the mat, tying my stuff on as I went.

The first pairing was SW and one of the other girls. SW had beaten her easily, also, the last time we sparred. The girl also outweighs SW by about 20 pounds and is about six inches taller. The instructor briefed us that we were now going full-up, with kicks and punches allowed wherever we wanted within the rules. The match started and the girl attacked SW with full-force kicks. It almost looked like she was trying to hurt her. SW lost, and Alan and I were called up next, with me still pissed off at some seven-year-old that I didn't even know. I figured I would maybe try a kick to the head, but nothing flashy since I didn't feel that I have enough control to not hit him full force.

The instructor threw his hand up to start the match. I took a half step forward, and the next thing I knew I was seeing stars from a heel to the chin. My mouthpiece filled with blood. The instructor signaled three points. Apparently he was airborne when he connected. I didn't notice.

We started again and I managed to get a couple of kicks off, and Alan jumped, turned, and threw a heel into my stomach. Two points. Match over.

Mind you, again, we are half-camo-belts and this is the second sparring match I've been in since I was 17. To the best of my knowledge, it's Alan's second sparring match ever.

I was compeltely incensed when I left class. So was SW. When we started to talk about it, I realized that Alan's son was particularly rough on the kid he sparred against, too, throwing axe kicks and moves we hadn't ever seen before, except on UFC. I fully expected the instructor to say something about control, but he never said a word.

I'm a little torn as to how to handle sparring against him again, which should happen tonight. I'm pretty sure I could get some hurtful kicks off, but I don't want this to escalate to a broken nose for someone, which I could definitely see happening. At least now I know that he has a few more weapons in his repetoir, and will be a lot more defensive.

CHALLENGE STATUS

PUSHUP: -711
SITUPS: -711
MILES: -12.3

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Comments on "Intensity"

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (11:21 AM) : 

There are so many things I want to say here. . .

First, I am equally shocked and disgusted at that kids behavior. UNBELIEVABLE! Of course, that is exactly why I stopped teaching several years ago and have no desire to go back. So many parents don't teach their kids right from wrong and don't care what they do. The lack of respect for adults is deplorable.

Second, regarding the sparring-the lack of control is equally unsettling. It forces someone like you to have to make a decision-continue on the path you know is right and use control or choose to abandon the control and get even. Unfortunately there are too many people in the martial arts who are like your opponent. In a controlled sparring environment, that really shouldn't be happening. So, if your instructor doesn't insist on control, what can you do other than defend yourself and match the other persons force?

I'm anxious to hear how your next match with this guy goes.

 

Blogger Unknown said ... (3:32 PM) : 

I couldn't have said it better than BBM. And I'm surprised that the instructor didn't stop the competition if your mouth was all bloody! Control is the key, and there are some instructors who don't teach that, and it sounds like you have to remind them that this is sport sparring, and not bloodsport. I've seen it get rough at tournaments, but even then, a good judge will stop things pretty quick if it gets out of hand. Do say something about the sparring to the instructor. And don't forget to say something to the kid too, especially if the kid is a student there. Respect, courtesy, honor, self-control are all credos that the ATA promotes, especially to the kids. I have had students, too, who are disrespectful, but when you get nose to nose with them, and you show them who's boss, then eventually learn to back off and do what they need to do. I was making some headway with one kid in class, and now he's in another class with my instructor instead. I think she's given up, and yes, the kid made me miserable too, but it's consistency, and he doesn't get it at home.

Let me know how it goes in your next class. Sparring is something that I'm constantly working on myself for competition, but from my experience, you shouldn't have to put up with what you have so far. Control truly is the key in the end.

 

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